Tuesday, November 8, 2016

Peace, Even In A Storm...Be Encouraged

Today is the culmination of months and months and month, of the most unconventional political campaign we have ever witnessed. For the first time in my life and my husband's we have been paying close attention to the American Presidential race. Nope, not since I ran as a candidate in our provincial election about 22 years ago, have I watched an entire political debate, we watched almost all three of the Trump Clinton debates, along with commentaries, highlights and analysis'. We both feel that the Republicans are the party we would support.
Why? Why would be so interested in this election? Well, aside from the obvious, Canada shares a border with America. In fact our city is about fourty miles from their border. My old high school teacher illustrated it best. Way back when, Mr. Nurmi, our geography teacher, told us that when America sneezes, Canada catches a cold. It was a statement made over thirty years ago, that made an impression on my then, young mind. It was one of the only things that stuck with me. He helped me to understand the impact the United States of America has on Canada. Interestingly, back then it was also about two years before the infamous North American Free Trade Agreement commenced, a subject mentioned during this campaign by Donald Trump. Anyhoo, it makes sense for Canadians to care about what our neighbour is up to....

I spent hours trying to write about where my head is at regarding this election and too much keeps coming up. Since it only makes reading more confusing it is best to focus on encouraging anyone who is concerned about the election results with God's Word. 
Only God knows how this will all go.

[1Th 5:1-11 KJV] 1 But of the times and the seasons, brethren, ye

We want to be reminded about what God's
Word says to edify and encourage each other with His Word,
have no need that I write unto you. 2 For yourselves know perfectly that the day of the Lord so cometh as a thief in the night. 3 For when they shall say, Peace and safety; then sudden destruction cometh upon them, as travail upon a woman with child; and they shall not escape. 4 But ye, brethren, are not in darkness, that that day should overtake you as a thief. 5 Ye are all the children of light, and the children of the day: we are not of the night, nor of darkness. 6 Therefore let us not sleep, as [do] others; but let us watch and be sober. 7 For they that sleep sleep in the night; and they that be drunken are drunken in the night. 8 But let us, who are of the day, be sober, putting on the breastplate of faith and love; and for an helmet, the hope of salvation. 9 For God hath not appointed us to wrath, but to obtain salvation by our Lord Jesus Christ, 10 Who died for us, that, whether we wake or sleep, we should live together with him. 11 Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do.

A Monarchist....
Last week I heard something that touched my heart about how to view all this. A godly man named Chuck Missler was a guest on Skywatch TV and when asked something about who he supports to be president, he responded with words that caused a big Amen to come out of my heart! Chuck said (and I paraphrase), I am neither republican nor democrat, I am a Monarchist waiting for the King Of Kings to return. We know God's Word tells us to: 
[Rom 13:1-8 NLT] Everyone must submit to governing authorities. For all authority comes from God, and those in positions of authority have been placed there by God. 2 So anyone who rebels against authority is rebelling against what God has instituted, and they will be punished. 3 For the authorities do not strike fear in people who are doing right, but in those who are doing wrong. Would you like to live without fear of the authorities? Do what is right, and they will honor you. 4 The authorities are God's servants, sent for your good. But if you are doing wrong, of course you should be afraid, for they have the power to punish you. They are God's servants, sent for the very purpose of punishing those who do what is wrong. 5 So you must submit to them, not only to avoid punishment, but also to keep a clear conscience. 6 Pay your taxes, too, for these same reasons. For government workers need to be paid. They are serving God in what they do. 7 Give to everyone what you owe them: Pay your taxes and government fees to those who collect them, and give respect and honor to those who are in authority. 8 Owe nothing to anyone--except for your obligation to love one another. If you love your neighbor, you will fulfill the requirements of God's law.

End Times Warning
[Mat 24:2-51 KJV] 2 And Jesus said unto them, See ye not all these things? verily I say unto you, There shall not be left here one stone upon another, that shall not be thrown down. 3 And as he sat upon the mount of Olives, the disciples came unto him privately, saying, Tell us, when shall these things be? and what [shall be] the sign of thy coming, and of the end of the world? 4 And Jesus answered and said unto them, Take heed that no man deceive you. 5 For many shall come in my name, saying, I am Christ; and shall deceive many. 6 And ye shall hear of wars and rumours of wars: see that ye be not troubled: for all [these things] must come to pass, but the end is not yet. 7 For nation shall rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom: and there shall be famines, and pestilences, and earthquakes, in divers places. 8 All these [are] the beginning of sorrows. 9 Then shall they deliver you up to be afflicted, and shall kill you: and ye shall be hated of all nations for my name's sake. 10 And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another. 11 And many false prophets shall rise, and shall deceive many. 12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold. 13 But he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved. 14 And this gospel of the kingdom shall be preached in all the world for a witness unto all nations; and then shall the end come. 15 When ye therefore shall see the abomination of desolation, spoken of by Daniel the prophet, stand in the holy place, (whoso readeth, let him understand:) 16 Then let them which be in Judaea flee into the mountains: 17 Let him which is on the housetop not come down to take any thing out of his house: 18  Neither let him which is in the field return back to take his clothes. 19 And woe unto them that are with child, and to them that give suck in those days! 20 But pray ye that your flight be not in the winter, neither on the sabbath day: 21 For then shall be great tribulation, such as was not since the beginning of the world to this time, no, nor ever shall be. 22 And except those days should be shortened, there should no flesh be saved: but for the elect's sake those days shall be shortened. 23 Then if any man shall say unto you, Lo, here [is] Christ, or there; believe [it] not. 24 For there shall arise false Christs, and false prophets, and shall shew great signs and wonders; insomuch that, if [it were] possible, they shall deceive the very elect. 25 Behold, I have told you before. 26 Wherefore if they shall say unto you, Behold, he is in the desert; go not forth: behold, [he is] in the secret chambers; believe [it] not. 27 For as the lightning cometh out of the east, and shineth even unto the west; so shall also the coming of the Son of man be. 28 For wheresoever the carcase is, there will the eagles be gathered together. 29 Immediately after the tribulation of those days shall the sun be darkened, and the moon shall not give her light, and the stars shall fall from heaven, and the powers of the heavens shall be shaken: 30 And then shall appear the sign of the Son of man in heaven: and then shall all the tribes of the earth mourn, and they shall see the Son of man coming in the clouds of heaven with power and great glory. 31 And he shall send his angels with a great sound of a trumpet, and they shall gather together his elect from the four winds, from one end of heaven to the other. 32 Now learn a parable of the fig tree; When his branch is yet tender, and putteth forth leaves, ye know that summer [is] nigh: 33 So likewise ye, when ye shall see all these things, know that it is near, [even] at the doors. 34 Verily I say unto you, This generation shall not pass, till all these things be fulfilled. 35 Heaven and earth shall pass away, but my words shall not pass away. 36 But of that day and hour knoweth no [man], no, not the angels of heaven, but my Father only. 37 But as the days of Noe [were], so shall also the coming of the Son of man be. 38 For as in the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark, 39 And knew not until the flood came, and took them all away; so shall also the coming of the Son of man be. 40 Then shall two be in the field; the one shall be taken, and the other left. 41 Two [women shall be] grinding at the mill; the one shall be taken, and the other left. 42 Watch therefore: for ye know not what hour your Lord doth come. 43 But know this, that if the goodman of the house had known in what watch the thief would come, he would have watched, and would not have suffered his house to be broken up. 44 Therefore be ye also ready: for in such an hour as ye think not the Son of man cometh. 45 Who then is a faithful and wise servant, whom his lord hath made ruler over his household, to give them meat in due season? 46 Blessed [is] that servant, whom his lord when he cometh shall find so doing. 47 Verily I say unto you, That he shall make him ruler over all his goods. 48 But and if that evil servant shall say in his heart, My lord delayeth his coming; 49 And shall begin to smite [his] fellowservants, and to eat and drink with the drunken; 50 The lord of that servant shall come in a day when he looketh not for [him], and in an hour that he is not aware of, 51 And shall cut him asunder, and appoint [him] his portion with the hypocrites: there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth.

Saturday, July 16, 2016

SURE HOPE IN DARK TIMES....HOPE IN ALL TIMES


It has been difficult keeping posted on current event these days. Not that is isn't always that way. But, if you know what has been happening worldwide over the last days, weeks and months, it is hard to watch and listen to everything. My husband and I have rest and peace because of what God's inerrant Word tells us. Without Him, we wouldn't be able to handle life on this earth the way things are. We are warned ahead of time in the Bible that it isn't going to get better. In other words things will worsen before all can be awesome. If you know Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour, you already know that even though we may be brought to tears watching the news, and even feel the temptation to be afraid of what might happen...God reminds you through His Words to not lose heart. 
If you do not know Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour, then you most likely might be feeling the fear and dread that I once battled as a child on through the first twenty years of life. All dread melted away and an indescribable peace has been in my heart ever since. Yes, I do struggle with tempting fears, especially during times like these. But thankfully, we have God's Truth to let us know beyond all doubt, that even death itself no longer has any sting.
If you are seeking Sure Hope and Truth or just need a reminder of all we have in Christ, here are just a few of many verses to help us find rest in Him. Seek and ye shall find, knock and the door will be opened unto you....

[Rev 21:3-8 KJV] 3 And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God [is] with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, [and be] their God. 4 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. 5 And he that sat upon the throne said, Behold, I make all things new. And he said unto me, Write: for these words are true and faithful. 6 And he said unto me, It is done. I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end. I will give unto him that is athirst of the fountain of the water of life freely. 7 He that overcometh shall inherit all things; and I will be his God, and he shall be my son. 8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.

[1Co 15:51-58 KJV] 51 Behold, I shew you a mystery; We shall not all sleep, but we shall all be changed, 52 In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised incorruptible, and we shall be changed. 53 For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal [must] put on immortality. 54 So when this corruptible shall have put on incorruption, and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory. 55 O death, where [is] thy sting? O grave, where [is] thy victory? 56  The sting of death [is] sin; and the strength of sin [is] the law. 57 But thanks [be] to God, which giveth us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. 58 Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord.

[Zep 3:17 KJV] 17 The LORD thy God in the midst of thee [is] mighty; he will save, he will rejoice over thee with joy; he will rest in his love, he will joy over thee with singing.

Tuesday, July 12, 2016

RECENT SHOOTINGS IN THE USA: Make It Home, Arrive Alive

Coffey Anderson has produced an excellent educational video giving great advice to anyone when  being pulled over by the police, what to do and how to do it safely and respectfully prepare for their arrival to the driver's door. His heart is or the police sand parties involved to get home safely. He addresses stereotypes and what we can learn from each other.
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Monday, July 4, 2016

MANDELA EFFECT? CHANGED BIBLES?? ALTERNATE TIME LINES?

Warning, as God's inerrant Word tells us, believers are in a spiritual, not a physical battle, 24/7.
[Eph 6:10-18 KJV] 10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might. 11 
Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. 12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high [places]. 13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. 14 Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; 15 And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace; 16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God: 18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;
[2Co 10:3-5 NASB] 3 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh, 4 for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses. 5 We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ,

With that in mind, and based on researching what others are saying - that God's Word has been altered. I don't mean because of other translations, but they believe in some bizarre, mind boggling conspiracy called the "Mandela Effect."
What is that, you ask? Okay, hang on to your seat for this one. In the past weeks, I have been noticing a phrase that keeps appearing on the internet....
"The Mandela Effect." It is apparently called this because of a lady and I assume others, remember that the history making man, Nelson Mandela, died in prison and some other variant memories. Remembering not what actually happened. Click here to see who he was. 
The basic definition for the "Mandela Effect" is when a lot of people remember actual events and details, differently than they really happened or are. They all remember the exact same way, which makes many belive that they must be remembering an alternative reality. If I lost you, I don't blame you. I first saw something about this a year or so ago, when I read that some were claiming that the children's book The"Berenstain Bears," was originally called the "Berenstein Bears." People were actually claiming that some how, we went back in time and our timeline was altered. Or CERN, where the Large Hadron Collider apparently, is apparently, being used to open up dimensions beyond the third one. Sounds crazy I know, but the scientists in CERN have actually stated that these are some of their goals. When I hear all this, I think Star Trek and Back To The Future. Maybe that will help some understand.
At first, I just left the topic alone, because I remember the books said Berenstain. I got to read them to my adorable nephew. It wasn't until recently when I saw more and more about this "Mandela Effect." So I thought, maybe it was time to learn what it is. Out of curiosity of course. Well, it turns out there are Christians as well, who are saying that not just famous phrases, movie titles, and brand names or company logos have been messed with but, the Christian Bible has also been altered. Some are even saying this "effect" is showing up, more and more each day!  Oh and movie lines that many of us remember to be one way, such as..."Luke, I am your father." But when the movie is watched, in reality Darth Vader says....

Why am I even talking about all this mind boggling stuff, here? The individuals I watched started to sound so convincing, I had to give my head a shake. One video after another and before I knew it, I was not agreeing with every word but, the Star Wars reference among some others, did remember differently in my mind also. Could it be possible? After all, I do believe in more than just the dimensions we can see. I do believe in God and all His Word says.
I was slipping into the rabbit hole... What pulled me out however, was actually looking up that actual Bible verses have been altered. My husband and I have concluded, that such things are obvious distraction attempts by our adversary, the Devil.
When we looked up the verses mentioned, it was obvious that these poor folks, ourselves included,  are remembering certain Bible references and seeing them as changed, in english. But we didn't realize that many of these verses are written the way we all remember them, to some degree. But, are actually contained in other areas of Scripture, written in a different way.
Even the Lord's prayer that many of us recited in school, according to all of us, once said, "Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us..." The belief is now, that it was changed from trespasses to debts and debtors. The truth is, the prayer we all learned, was not taken word for word out of one specific english translation. It was always trespasses in the public prayer and in the majority of English versions, the word for sin is debt. So if we don't know things like that, of course it might seem like the Bible has been changed in some bizarre way.
Another verse some think has been altered has to do with the Lion and the Lamb lying down together. They say wolves now replace lions. The Bible has never said the Lion and Lamb will lie down together.
Here are the actual verses that many believe have been changed from Lion to Wolf/wolves...turns out  these verses have said Wolf/Wolves all along.
[Isa 11:9 KJV] 9 They shall not hurt nor destroy in all my holy mountain: for the earth shall be full of the knowledge of the LORD, as the waters cover the sea.
[Isa 65:25 NET] 25 A wolf and a lamb will graze together; a lion, like an ox, will eat straw, and a snake's food will be dirt. They will no longer injure or destroy on my entire royal mountain," says the LORD.
And here is the pair of verses that refer to Jesus as being The Lion and The Lamb, but in separate sentences.
[Rev 5:5-6 NET] 5 Then one of the elders said to me, "Stop weeping! Look, the Lion of the tribe of Judah, the root of David, has conquered; thus he can open the scroll and its seven seals." 6 Then I saw standing in the middle of the throne and of the four living creatures, and in the middle of the elders, a Lamb that appeared to have been killed. He had seven horns and seven eyes, which are the seven spirits of God sent out into all the earth.

This article is intended to just be a reminder to those of us who like to research, to be wise and do not believe everything you read or hear if it is not in God's Word. Click here to see this great Bible reference tools online. And of course PRAY for discernment, asking God what is from Him, what is not. Ask for His Truth to be revealed to you.
There are a large variety of Bible translations as well, with variant words, but the meaning is usually the same. I can understand why many stick to the King James Authorized Bible translation. We have been in Bible Studies where, usually the NASB has a rare verse that presents a contrary . The meaning though is generally the same. When in doubt, use Greek and Hebrew Lexicons and Strong's Concordance.
God Never Changes Himself or His Word, Take A Look.. 
[Mat 24:35 KJV] 35 Heaven and earth shall pass away, but my words shall not pass away.
[Mar 13:31 KJV] 31 Heaven and earth shall pass away: but my words shall not pass away.
[Psa 12:6-7 KJV] 6 The words of the LORD [are] pure words: [as] silver tried in a furnace of earth, purified seven times. 7 Thou shalt keep them, O LORD, thou shalt preserve them from this generation for ever.
[Heb 13:8-9 NET] 8 Jesus Christ is the same yesterday and today and forever! 9 Do not be carried away by all sorts of strange teachings. For it is good for the heart to be strengthened by grace, not ritual meals, which have never benefited those who participated in them.
[Num 23:19-20 KJV] 19 God [is] not a man, that he should lie; neither the son of man, that he should repent: hath he said, and shall he not do [it]? or hath he spoken, and shall he not make it good? 20 Behold, I have received [commandment] to bless: and he hath blessed; and I cannot reverse it.
[Mal 3:6 KJV] 6 For I [am] the LORD, I change not; therefore ye sons of Jacob are not consumed.
[Rev 22:18-19 KJV] 18 For I testify unto every man that heareth the words of the prophecy of this book, If any man shall add unto these things, God shall add unto him the plagues that are written in this book: 19 And if any man shall take away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God shall take away his part out of the book of life, and out of the holy city, and [from] the things which are written in this book.

More Of God's Warnings About False Teachings And Warfare
[1Pe 5:8-10 NASB] 8 Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 9 But resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same experiences of suffering are being accomplished by your brethren who are in the world. 10 After you have suffered for a little while, the God of all grace, who called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself perfect, confirm, strengthen and establish you.
[Luk 10:19-20 NASB] 19 "Behold, I have given you authority to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy, and nothing will injure you. 20 "Nevertheless do not rejoice in this, that the spirits are subject to you, but rejoice that your names are recorded in heaven."
[1Jo 3:7-8 NASB] 7 Little children, make sure no one deceives you; the one who practices righteousness is righteous, just as He is righteous; 8 the one who practices sin is of the devil; for the devil has sinned from the beginning. The Son of God appeared for this purpose, to destroy the works of the devil.
[Gal 5:16-17 NLT] 16 So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won't be doing what your sinful nature craves. 17 The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the Spirit gives us desires that are the opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other, so you are not free to carry out your good intentions.
One More Thing...
Once I considered the other claims about logos, company names and Movie/Book titles being changed, I was reminded about how easy it is to have false memories. Click here to see an article about this subject.
 I know it sounds offensive to those who really believe in this alternate reality stuff, but the more I thought about what some of these claims, the more, it became clear that I had not heard or read it right in the first place! Hard to believe, but true. Here is one video, I checked out. A well meaning fellow. It is easy to get caught up in straying thoughts and ideas...


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Tuesday, June 7, 2016

11 YEAR OLD RECITES WHO JESUS CHRIST IS....Inspiring and True

Love, Love, Love, this boy's declaration of WHO JESUS CHRIST IS from Genesis all the way through Revelation!  Hallelujah! Amen and Thank You LORD for Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our Faith!

"11 Year old Josiah Willis proclaiming Jesus throughout the Bible in the Sunday morning services at Bent Tree in Carrollton, Texas on April 3rd, 2011."

He is My Redeemer...
He is My Saviour...
He is my Comfort....
And HE, rules my LIFE!

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[Jhn 14:6-7 KJV] 6 Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. 7 If ye had known me, ye should have known my Father also: and from henceforth ye know him, and have seen him.

“In Genesis, Jesus Christ is the breath of life
In Exodus, He is the passover lamb
In Leviticus, He is our high priest
In Numbers, He is the pillar of cloud by day and the pillar of fire by night
In Deuteronomy, He is the prophet like unto Moses
In Joshua, He’s the captain of our salvation
In Judges, He’s our judge and law giver
In Ruth, He’s our kinsmen redeemer
In First and Second Samuel, He is our trusted prophet
In Kings and Chronicles, He’s our reigning king
In Ezra and Nehemiah, He’s the re-builder of the broken down walls of human life
And in Esther, He is our Mordecai
In Job, He is our ever living redeemer
In Psalms, He is our shepard
In Proverbs and Ecclesiastes, He is our wisdom
And in the Song of Salomon, He is our loving bridegroom
In Isaiah, He’s the prince of peace
In Jeremiah, He is the righteous branch
In Lamentations, He is the weeping prophet
In Ezekiel, He is the wonderful four faced man
And in Daniel, He’s the fourth man in life’s fiery furnace
In Hosea, He’s the faithful husband forever married to the backslider
In Joel, He’s the baptizer of the Holy Ghost and fire
In Amos, He is our burden bearer
In Obadiah, He is mighty to save
In Jonah, He is our great foreign missionary
In Micah, He is the messenger of beautiful feet
In Nahum, He is our strength and shield
In Habakkuk, He’s God’s of angels cry, “revive they works in the midst of the years”
In Zephaniah, He is our savior
In Haggai, He is the restorer of God’s lost heritage
In Zachariah, He’s the fountain opened up in the house of David for sin and uncleanliness
And in Malachi, He is the stone of righteousness rising with healing in His wings
In Matthew, Jesus Christ is the king of the jews
In Mark, He is the servant
In Luke, He is the son of man, feeling what you feel
In John, He’s the son of God
In Acts, He’s the savior of the world
In Romans, He’s the righteousness of God
In 1 Corinthians, He’s the rock the father of Israel
In 2 Corinthians, He’s the triumphant one, giving vistory
In Galatians, He is your liberty, He set you free
In Ephesians, He is the head of the church
In Philippians, He is your Joy
In Colossians, He is your completeness
In 1-n-2 Thessalonians, He is your hope
In 1 Timothy, He is your faith
In 2 Timothy, He is your stability
In Titus, He is truth
In Philemon, He is your benefactor
In Hebrews, He’s your perfection
In James, He’s the power behind your faith
In 1 Peter, He is your example
In 2 Peter, He’s your purity
In 1 John, He is your life
In 2 John, He is your pattern
In 3 John, He is your motivation
and Dude, He’s the foundation of your faith
and in Revelation, He is your coming king … ” Josiah Willis

Sunday, May 22, 2016

JUST SAYING NO....BULLIES and BOUNDARIES

Here is a great article that has a great audio portion you can listen to at the top of the page by Sue Bohlin, she is talking about setting Boundaries with family members and such, which works well for any relationship. 
The Great audio is at the top of the page- click here. 
Lots of great godly wisdom. I got a lot out of her words...
Anyone struggling with family and even families where there are controlling and manipulative people. If you grew up thinking like me, I thought it was wrong to say no to anyone no matter what. That even meant I actually didn't even think I could say "no!" or report anyone who bullied me. Needless to say, the first incident that hit my heart first (that I remember first) was about in grade one...my good friend (or so I thought), and I were leaning against the hallway wall and suddenly she shoved me and down I plopped, straight to the floor! I looked up at her with great pain and shock inside, but didn't say a word. When she stated to our teacher, "Anita fell!" My mouth still stayed shut, and I absorbed the inner wound and it kind of set in motion the next few decades of how I would deal with bullies and those who like to try to control others.
As the next few years carried on, I must say eventually, the fear increased so much I began telling my Mom who'd report it to the principal. Sadly, no one said anything to me about it not being my fault, there are lots of crazy incidents between then and then, but all that time I did believe I must deserve it.
Not Deserved
Bullying those who appear "different" than the "norm," is tragically common in the school system. If you are bullied or have a child living with a disability of any type, please make sure they know that they never deserve to be bullied, that the one bullying has the problems and to report it right away to someone they trust. It can leave deep false beliefs inside your heart.
I spent my teen and early adult years, letting others "do" things to me that were not right, because I was too scared of being rejected. Never thinking I could say no. My fear of rejection and displeasing others, lead to a life of compromise and truly believing I had NO choice to say "no," or draw a boundary line. Turns out that was not true. Glad I know now!!

Also Here's a video by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, who co-wrote the BOUNDARIES book that I really enjoyed.